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**annmarie** · August 9th, 2009

sorry for your families loss. so lucky thst your grandson was not travelling with her. We are all here for you if you need anything.
Prayers for you all

**p_lanter** · August 12th, 2009

It is sad to hear this and also that her family is not allowing your son to see your grandson. I hope that the courts will look beyond his mistakes and so what is right. His son deserves to know his father and you his grandmother as well.
Payers go out to you all.
Hugs, Patty

**boltonia51** · August 12th, 2009

do not lose your faith because of these things that are happening . there is a reason which only God knows. And he will fortify you to endure what will come in your tomorrows. Blessings to you and your family

**windstar** · August 12th, 2009

Was wondering if there was an update on the custody issue with the son/grandson yet.

**EmBargains** · August 12th, 2009

Thank You All for your prayers and well beings. I will find out more tommorrow When myself and Trevor meet with the Lawyers. Evidently they have filed something in the court system and their lawyers and our lawyers are now going back and forth. So our lawyer called us for an appt. so we can discuss what it is that has been filed and What our next step is going to be.

I'll keep yu updated on what is going on. I started a new job Monday also so with all this going on and trying to make some extra money. It's been pretty stressful, But we are trying to stay positive and focused. Trevor Starts his parenting classes also tommorrow night Which the lawyer has suggested he do, and of course a job which he now has. So things are moving along oas planned on our end. I'm just curious as to what they have filed and knowing her family I'm sure it's something to try and keep Conner with them. So I probably won't get much rest tonight just because of being so anxious in wondering what all that is about. So I'll keep ya posted after I get back tommorrow evening on the outcome.

Thank you again Everyone!

**brendaj** · August 12th, 2009

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. It's a shame when a child becomes a pawn in adults hand. Her family has know idea the harm the could be doing to that poor child.
Please take care.
brenda in MI

**EmBargains** · August 12th, 2009

Thanks, And your absolutely right, But I'm sure what they don't know is that Trevor doesn't want to keep Conner from them, Because they are still his grandparents, It's just a shame that they feel the way they do.

It may just backfire on them tommorrow If Our lawyers tell us they are seeking full custody. Trevor may not be so generous as letting them see Conner.

I'm just sickened by the whole thing I can't understand how Prominent people in the community could think only of themselves. I understand the fact that they want Conner close to them because thats all they have of Leanna now. But we are not trying to take Conner from them. They just don't want Conner with him or us.

**windstar** · August 12th, 2009

No matter what EmBargains remember that the issue of child custody or anything dealing with children is never a done deal especially if you are not the biological parent. So be positive and keep that in mind. Whatever they try to do won't be permanent.

**EmBargains** · August 13th, 2009

Thanks Winstar, That's what I told Trevor, It's just going to take time and patience. I still have his Christmas Presents wrapped and his First birthday present and all the presents from the family since his birth that we have put up for him. It will be a glorious day the first time I see him unwrapping those gifts from the family. I will definitely have my cameras ready.

Thank you so much!

Originally Posted by windstar

No matter what EmBargains remember that the issue of child custody or anything dealing with children is never a done deal especially if you are not the biological parent. So be positive and keep that in mind. Whatever they try to do won't be permanent.

**EmBargains** · August 13th, 2009

An Update; We went to the lawyers this evening, And they filed what papers we kinda of thought they would. They want FULL custody, Which our lawyer told them no, And If that wasn't acceptable to Trevor Shared Parenting, Which our Lawyer told them No.

So Our lawyer has sent a letter back with a Gradual Reunification for Trevor and Conner to Bond set weeking visits, Which in total comes to 13 weeks, And Also, To let the Other grandparents have visits with Conner every other weekend for the full weekend.

Which will probablly not fly with them. But as our lawyer said they really have no other choice but to accept. I'm surprise and very proud of Trevor for even suggesting that they have visits. It's a real shame that they never gave him a chance to be a father to Conner, So now it has to be forced and he absolutely hates that, But they will find out how big of a heart that they deprived Leanna because the 2 of them was in love and wanted to be a family. But her father is a hard nosed man and I guess thinks people without alot of money is just not the same as them.
It's hard telling what they will do now. He also presented a drug screening that also was negetive because they said the reason they wanted custody was because of Trevor using Drugs, Well he has been drug free for almost 7 months now. So it was a good day and now maybe I can get some sleep tonight!

Just thought I'd drop in and let you all know before heading to bed. have a great night ladies and god bless!!

**jstitch** · August 14th, 2009

Glad things are on this track, embargains. I don't know that there is a 'good' resolution to this situation, but it sounds like the way it is set up now is the best. Hope you can rest tonight. Glad you had a good lawyer.

**windstar** · August 14th, 2009

EmBargains that is music to my ears. I kinda figured that was the way it would go. Thanks for giving us an update and continued success in this journey.

**debbsie** · August 14th, 2009

This sounds so very positive and hopeful now. How wonderful that things are falling into place. You have a good lawyer. What a good heart your son has to be so kind to the people who were so horrible to him. He deserves all good things to happen to him. The child deserves to be with his loving father and grandparents on the father's side.

**dorie** · August 14th, 2009

So sorry to hear all this back and forth for you and your family. Will keep you in my prayers and thanks for all the updates.

**brendaj** · August 14th, 2009

Thanks for keeping us updated. It is such a shame when people are so short sighted that the courts have to intervine. On day that poor boy will be comforted knowing that his father and family cared enough to fight for him.Please take care.
brenda in MI