Sorry for my absence..But

[EmBargains]

My son came up from Florida last Thursday along with my daughter the one thats in the air force and the following morning there was a horrific accident. My sons Ex, the mother of his child was killed in a car accident, It was instant so she didn't suffer, But it's been a horrible week for my son and our family.
My grandson wasn't in the vehicle thank god, So now goes the custody battle. So I'm afraid I won't be able to continue in the quilt block swap. I have so much on my plate now with helping him get custody that I don't foresee alot of free time ahead. He still loved her and he was trying to straighten his life out to try and make things work out with them, But unfortunately that won't happen now.

My heart aches for him he has been pretty depressed and heartbroken and is worried sick about Conner.

My apologies on the swap I just dont think I can do it right now ladies. All I do is cry, this week has been hard and today has actually been the first day where I actually got up and done something around the house I too haven't felt much like being happy.

[jstitch]

Embargains, this is tragic news. My heart goes out to your family in your time of suffering. Wish there was something more I could say or do. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.

[windstar]

EmBargains, So sorry for your loss and all the heartbreak. The first concern is your family and yourself. I will pray for you all and that things will work out for your son and the children. It is so important that your son doesn't relapse right now and you really do have your hands and heart full, so please don't worry about things here on the forum. Everyone understands and just know we are here for you whatever the need. Take Care of yourself and the family.

[EmBargains]

Thank you ladies, yes the relapse is worrisome right now. He is out tonight and I believe I have called him like 6 times to make sure he is ok. I just feel absolutely helpless. I thought all my worries was gone when he moved to Florida and then all this happened.
The Lord sure is doing some testing with us right now, for what reason I dont know but i just dont understand it. Thank you for your understanding

[jstitch]

I felt like we have been being tested through the last 18 months too. I have struggled with understanding why as well. I realized this past few weeks that we may never know why, and that doesn't matter. What does matter is that we continue to have faith and remember that God loves us. Didn't mean to sermonize, just maybe give a little support and encouragement.

[SusieQ]

Wow. What heart breaking news and after you've been through so much already. I will keep you and your son and the childs situation in my prayers. Know that people around here care about you. I'll add a note to the block exchange thread so more will know what is going on.

[Grandma Ria]

EmBargains, So sorry for your loss and all the heartbreak, you are going through, hope everthing will turn out all rigth for all of you and that precious little Boy who is suffering like you all must be,you are all in my thougths.
Take care Ria

[Anael]

Embargains, I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. Just take your time, we will be here whenever you need us. My thoughts are with all of you.

[kt3234]

Embargains,
So sorry for your loss! Will keep you and family in my thoughts and prayers. Here's hoping for sunny skies ahead.
kt3234 Karen

[watermelon]

I'm so saddened to read this news and it's okay to not feel like being happy. Nobody could when trying to cope with such a tragedy. Praying for you and your family and talking to you on the forum is all I can do...wish there was more.
Cyber hugs to you.

[tndenim]

Sorry to hear about the tradgey. I hope your sons gets custody.

[EmBargains]

Thank you all for your prayer and thoughts, I was flabbergasted at the cost of custody 2,500.00 just for 9 1/2 hours. The other grandparents who have the child went as far as having a private funeral which mind you is there right, But her friends who loved her came from all over the country to say their goodbyes and no one could go not even my son.

And then denied him from seeing or taking his child just to even hold him. So now we battle, I haven't seen him since he has been born. They had total control over everything she done even with the relationship with my son, granted he had a troubled past with the usage of drugs but he is no monster and loves his son and loved her, and none of this I believe would have happened If she would've been free to make her own decsisions.

It's sad really because Conner has lost his mother and now has to be put through this custody thing and once the visits start ( which is what we have to do first) Why I don't understand but I'm taking my lawyers advice. I feel they violated his rights as the biological father when we went to pick him up and the officer told us no and went straight up to there home to let them know we was there to pick him up.

For people who attend church I just don't understand how it is possible for them to have so much hatred in there hearts to not want Conner to see his father. He needs him now more than ever. I just don't understand it

[teddy_rn]

Don't worry about the swap love. You just take care of Conner. I will take you out of the swap but feel free to join any and all in the future.

Please know that you are are in our prayers always.

[dorie]

prayers headed upwards for you and your family

[debbsie]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and the tragedy. It's so sad. Thankfully your son has you to help him. I am hoping for the best for the child and your family.

[brendaj]

I am so sorry. Will keep all in my thoughts and prayers.
brenda in MI

[brownabel]

EmBargains - I am saddened to read of the tragic news of your grandson's Mom and all that is going on with her family and yours. It's hard to put into words the sadness that we all feel. Stay strong. I pray that your son does not relapse and that things can work out amicably, especially for Conner and your son. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Cathy

[annap]

I am so sorry to hear of your heart break and will keep you and our family in my prayers. anna

[artist_bre]

Embargains
I just want to add my prayers and thoughts to you, you son, and most of all to your little grandson, I am so sorry for all of you and what you're going through. As tragic as it is to loose his mom now those awful people want him to also loose his daddy. Thats so wrong and I pray that God will help them see what they are doing is only hurting this child even more that they can imagine.

I am sure he will get visitation quite quickly once there is a hearing, I also think and with any justice at all he will get custody of his son and soon.

All my love and prayers
Bre

[123mccoach]

I am so sorry for your tradegy. Thank God the young boy was not in the car. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son and your grandson. He is going to miss his mommy. You all are going to need a lot of love to get through this. It never goes away but it does get easier. My son was killed by a drunk driver so I know what you are all going through. Make sure you all get plenty of rest and eat even if you don't feel like it. I didn't do either and got myself very sick.