NEW NEW NEW quilt block swap

[teddy_rn]

You are not! And don't let her make you feel that you are!

People can be so thoughtless sometimes. She may have thought she was being generous by wanting to share with you, but it is obvious that she didn't think about what would be best for you. When people are blind it is often best to just state the obvious.

Glad you are feeling better.

I was talking to my daughter today and told her if a trip is the ONLY way to get anything I will pick a goody!! Hum... a cruise? Trip to Florida? Wanted Mexico but she does not have a passport!

[Pennies_From_Heaven]

Just so you all know it is not me the owes Debbie the money, because if I did, she wouldn't be helping me get my new embroidery machine.

[klarina]

It was like everything mattered and nothing mattered all at the same time! A family member owes me $10,000 and has not even offered to pay back a single dime yet offered to take me on a vacation soon with settlement money! I am so tired because DH lost his job and I am working extra always to help out while helping her too and her offer was a total slap in the face! I stated I appreciate it but would rather have the money right now! I don't think I am being a witch but this really floored me!

Deb: It wouldn't hurt to ask her if she is offering you your $10K back plus the trip as a bonus for being nice and patient with her?

[klarina]

I was talking to my daughter today and told her if a trip is the ONLY way to get anything I will pick a goody!! Hum... a cruise? Trip to Florida? Wanted Mexico but she does not have a passport!

How about a trip to So Cal?

[123mccoach]

Deb: I am so sorry to hear about your problem with your friend. I learned a long time ago not to lend money to a friend or family. It only causes hard feelings and you usually loose the friend and your family usually doesn't speak to you. At this time in my life I figure if I can aford to lend the money I don't expect it back, and if I do get it back I'm happy. My daughter owes me so much money I can't even count. I'm sure I won't get it back so I am thinking I am giving her her inheritance early. As for your friend who owes you money. I know you could probably use it now but if she's waiting for a settlement I wouldn't worry no matter what she says, until she receives the settlement. Then I would be there with my hand out telling her you really need the money back now since your husband is out of work you need it to pay whatever. Make her feel guilty. Don't ever feel guilty if someone else owes you. My husband is out of work too since last August and I'm on SS disability. I know how hard it can get. If you need someone to talk to you can always pm me.

[Grandma Ria]

Deborah I myself would just approach her and tell her that you would rather have the Money that she borrowed than a trip.

I know it is easly said I am in some what the same situation,,we borrowed againts our House to Help DD and her{Ex now} husband to get them out of a large hole because he started his own business and was just lazy {although very talented} a large some of money he has just going mad,has not given her child Maintaince for 3 months{only has to give her $17.50 a week big deal} so she has going back to work to support herself and GD as well as getting some Goverment help.

In the mean time we are paying for the Loan,as she does not have the Money to do so.
My dear husband just say's what do you do and I gues he is rigth,it just makes me mad.
Anyway hope you get yours back.
Enjoy your day Ria

[teddy_rn]

Pennie is right, she is not the sister that owes me the money but another sister. We tried to help and be nice and it bit us in the butt. I love the idea of asking for the money and taking the trip as a bonus Actually I have felt better today about things than I have in awhile! Ya'll are the best for a great smile. A year ago my cell got disconnected because of the same sis and 4 more times. Each time it goes against my credit and she told our dad that if I didn't blow money on fabric and crap this wouldn't happen! Really!! I pay more than my share and she rarely paid, than I had to walk home in freezing weather a couple weeks ago because of no phone and the battery in my car died. Again with her not paying so I called the phone company and had her booted off the planet, that felt GREAT because I know that the phone will never be cut off again! Wish all solutions were so simple!! It just felt wonderful to know that I am in controll and I don't have to help and don't have to feel guilty because I won't.

We all have problems and I am amazed at how many of us get totally screwed over by family! Oh well, let God judge on the day and stand back from the flames!

[Phillipa]

I jniow what this feels like, I lent a friend a substanial amount of money this time last year, and told him I would be ok until Christmas (2009). I have since spoken to him and still no sign of any of it being returned. I have extended the repayment to April/May this year. Good thing I had a contract signed regarding this money. I feel a friendship could be in jepardy, but this money is very important and I will need it about July this year. I would be definite about the return of any money lent, especially if it is a loan.

[artist_bre]

Klarina
I'm so sorry. The same thing happened here; but it was my son (not my husbands child) who borrowed $6,000 from my husband when he got his retirement that we needed to roll over when we got to Florida. He never paid us back as was the agreement and finally after not talking to him for years, (and we were very close). My dh said for him to forget paying us the money because we had not seen him or our grandaughter that we had every weekend of her life since she was born.

So as was said I now consider all that money we give the kids an early inheritance and friends we only do if we have it and then forget it unless they do pay it back.
People just like to take advantage of kindness even and especially from family.
Bre

[teddy_rn]

on a POSITIVE note I feel really great today BECAUSE...as most of you know we have been raising our grands for 12 years now. They have been on social services for years but no more!!! DH took them to the closest military base in July 2009 and got them coverage thru the AF so now they have medical insurance. The first of this year they now have dental insurance thru my work. I could not afford the huge payment for family insurance, no wonder so many people don't have it! I also have a plan that takes money out of my paycheck for a MasterCard to be used strickly for medical/dental/visual needs; a benefits card! today is their first dental appointment and I can AFFORD it!!! I am soooo excited over NOT having to worry for the first time in forever! It feels really, really great to be able to do this!

[bibliostone]

Hurrah! My blocks came today and everyone was right, they are a great mix. It will be interesting to see how they come together. I couldn't work on them today because I was finishing up a Christmas present for a friend I'll see tomorrow. Yes, a little late, but we always get together for her birthday and do Christmas then since we both have too much going on in December. Nothing like waiting to the last moment to get motivated and finish projects.

[teddy_rn]

Hurrah! My blocks came today and everyone was right, they are a great mix. It will be interesting to see how they come together. I couldn't work on them today because I was finishing up a Christmas present for a friend I'll see tomorrow. Yes, a little late, but we always get together for her birthday and do Christmas then since we both have too much going on in December. Nothing like waiting to the last moment to get motivated and finish projects.

Horray!!! Now we are truly done and I am happy!! You can use your new special thread to decorate your treasures now too! I am just really sorry that yours took extra long! I can't even blame being really old! Just goofy and brain dead!

[bibliostone]

I can't believe I forgot to say thank you for the thread and hand cream! Deb, it was very generous of you to share and to do all the work involved in getting the swap organized and completed. Thank you! Elise

[tndenim]

I'm so glad you finally got your blocks Elise and you can see what we've been oohing and aahhing about! Aren't they just wonderful??

[teddy_rn]

Just wanted those of you who have not seen it to be sure and check out OUR completed Holiday block swap quilt top! She is a beauty!! Mind you, in spite of the term OUR, she stays on my bed!

http://www.designsbysick.com/forums/...ap-t12776.html

[123mccoach]

Pennie is right, she is not the sister that owes me the money but another sister. We tried to help and be nice and it bit us in the butt. I love the idea of asking for the money and taking the trip as a bonus Actually I have felt better today about things than I have in awhile! Ya'll are the best for a great smile. A year ago my cell got disconnected because of the same sis and 4 more times. Each time it goes against my credit and she told our dad that if I didn't blow money on fabric and crap this wouldn't happen! Really!! I pay more than my share and she rarely paid, than I had to walk home in freezing weather a couple weeks ago because of no phone and the battery in my car died. Again with her not paying so I called the phone company and had her booted off the planet, that felt GREAT because I know that the phone will never be cut off again! Wish all solutions were so simple!! It just felt wonderful to know that I am in controll and I don't have to help and don't have to feel guilty because I won't.

We all have problems and I am amazed at how many of us get totally screwed ov."er by family! Oh well, let God judge on the day and stand back from the flames!

Well you know the saying, "you can choose your friends but you can't choose your relatives."

[Phillipa]

Thius is so close to my heart at the moment. brian has been manipulated by son for so many years. it came to head over the weekend and the police had to get involved. Would you believe it is because this middle aged tantrum throwing son couldn't get his own way over our forthcoming marriage. he has been doing everything to break us up and at the bottom of it is Brian's Will and the money from the sale of his house. This son even used an ex lady friend of Brian's toi interfere, she overstepped the mark with abusive text messages about me. Shame I practise law part time now I am retired. i hit back fast and hard with an injunction against her and threatened one against the middle age tantrum thrower and his lovely wife. I don't think they will troubling us in the future. Oh this is the same son who was asked to be best man. He really did a number on his father. I bit my tongue over it. Brian now has to find another Best Man. Oh the ex lady friend, has been given a Police warning and one more text message, phone call or letter and she off to jail. The two police officers who handles the matter, did it tactfully and would not take any nonsense from her. They made her apologise to both us over a speaker phone. it does make you feel good to have your life back in your control.

[teddy_rn]

What the crap is people's problem's? Our father got married to a really nice lady but he had a temper and really upset her so she walked out on dad. He ended up going to anger management classes and really changed but in the mean time her children (all long grown up) forced her to get an annulment and told her is she had anything else to do with him they would never speak to her again. She was right to leave him and they tried several times to get together again except for her 8 kids having a fit! The oldest is the ring leader. I would think that since he truly has changed and it is for the best they should be left along to live as they see fit and not as her kids dictate to her. But then again she allows this...

[tndenim]

Remember - we don't get to choose our family only our friends!!!

But we can deal with the family. If we don't like something - then we need to tell them - TACTFULLY - the first time. after that - all bets are off as well as the kid gloves!!

I know - I bite my tongue when dealing with the family too. It's hard not to, but there are times!!! And I have been know to let loose with both barrels! and you know what - it felt good too!

[bibliostone]

Ladies,

Since we have a "snow day" today, I am working on my blocks and and trying to get the signature blocks attached. Somehow I've misplaced the information for this block. In case the picture does not show up, it is an angel on a center red block with a star made up of candy/gingerbread fabrics. Will the maker of this block please send me their user name?

Thanks. I will post a picture of the entire top when I get it pieced. I am only using 25 squares for the first top and expect to make a twin size with the other blocks.