Am I just getting old?

[Mylisa]

We went to opening night at the opera this weekend. The opera was great, but I continue to be amazed at what some people consider proper attire for such an event. Granted, a tux and evening gown wasn't necessary, but cut-off jeans and a t-shirt??

[clkeck]

I agree. Many times the way you dress is a form of respect. I have had job applicants show in shorts and t-shirts. Needless to say, they were not hired!
Connie

[teddy_rn]

I am over 50 years old and am disgusted many times by the way people dress in public! Several years ago I went to Las Vegas to the Paris hotel resturant; we were flat out told it was "after 5 pm dress", there were even signs posted. We took pride in our dress and our party looked very nice as did all the people in the resturant. One couple showed up in jeans and tops; you could tell that their clothes cost a lot but still!! I think that they should not have been allowed to enter!

While in Mexico a couple of years ago it was the same thing, formal dress for the evening meal. there were 11 of us and all dressed very nicely. It was a pleasure to see a room full of well dressed diners.

I agree with Connie, it is a sign/form of respect. When I was a child dad was in the air force, there were parties all the time and everyone dressed formally even though the party was in a private home.

In November my family and I are going to New Zealand for a couple of weeks and plan to take a few formal outfits for dining out. to me it is not only respect but personal pride.

OK, hopping off the old soap box.

[ginny1960]

We went to opening night at the opera this weekend. The opera was great, but I continue to be amazed at what some people consider proper attire for such an event. Granted, a tux and evening gown wasn't necessary, but cut-off jeans and a t-shirt??

I agee with you, this is improper attire to be wearing to the opera. If I went to the opera I would wear either an evening gown or cocktail dress. Opera is of great style and class. It is pride and respect that is shown and should be dressed according to the term of the dress code of the facility. I personally would be very to show up in that type of attire.

[oldhag]

While I agree with cutoffs and t-shirts not being acceptable attire for the opera, I tend to shy away from restaurants and other places that have dress codes. I guess I'm still a throw back from the '60's in that i believe that "clothes don't make the man, the man makes the clothes". I cringe when I listen to people who talk about their designer duds and all too often there is a lot of clothes snobs who judge people by the cut of their suit and not what is inside. To me dress codes just perpetrate and encourage that form of discrimination.

[tweetee]

I think you need to dress appropriately for the occasion. I mean, tshirt and cut offs are for the beach! its all about self respect and respecting other people around you.

For the Opera I would be dressing in a smart suit, or pretty semi formal cocktail dress.

For a job interview I dress in a practical ladies suit with sensible shoes and a shirt or blouse with a nice collar.

For going shopping, its comfy shoes and perhaps a nice pair of jeans and a sweater

For lounging around at home, out comes the old tracksuit pants, slippers and raggy tshirt that has been my favorite for years and cant bear to throw out...

[sharong]

I agree totally with you! I often wonder what people are thinking with they go out. Weather it be to a dress event or picnic you dress appropriately for the occassion and the person you are with. Completely about respect

[Grandma Ria]

I think it is nice to Dress up as we don't do it enough anymore.
But some people wear what ever they feel comfortable in.,it takes all kinds.

Mylisa Did you enjoy the Opera?
Enjoy Ria

[jand803]

I would like to see someone go to the beach in a formal dress and hear what other's have to say about that. Then maybe they would understand dressing for the event.

[windstar]

From what I can see or tell, you ain't getting old. I have noticed that a lot of people especially the younger crowd no longer dress appropriately for many occasions any more. As long as they have on clothes the feel they are dressed.

[watermelon]

Something I've learned from the 20 years I've lived in Florida. It really doesn't matter what you wear, you'll fit in just about anywhere. I've seen people in beach attire dining at the finest restaurants.

However, Saturday night, DH and the band entertained at Horses For Handicap, Denim and Diamonds Event. The 'band leaders' wife, who sings backup harmony, told the band members No Jeans. I told DH I thought 'she' decided on dress code. Turns out she did. However, DH and I dressed in nice slacks and shirts, and shoes. We actually clean up pretty good. tee hee. Anywho, this event was to raise money for this organization. Ours does not charge for riding sessions for the handicap in our community and surrounding counties. Many charge as much as $120 per 15 minute session. Anywho most of the people who attended have more money than they know what to do with...yet they were dressed in western attire. There were very few putting on the glitz. So my point is just because someone is 'dressed to kill' doesn't mean a hill of beans, when you know who 'really has the money'. I agree, dress appropriately, but don't try to 'keep up with the Jones's'.

[jstitch]

I think you can dress nicely and not break the bank. I shop at nicer stores, but I always shop the clearance rack. I've gotten hundred dollar suits for 75% off. I hardly ever pay full price for anything unless it's an emergency. I think the way you dress does show respect, and it doesn't have to be a status symbol, or a statement of how much you have. Just my two cents worth.

[Sue Foster]

I can see no one in this group lives in or near Miami, down here the attitude is less is best, scantily clad women of ALL sizes & shapes in barely there clothing & see through clothing is the acceptible trend, personally I think it looks aweful. My DH had to set up a dress code for his employees who thought mini skirts, skin tight jeans & muffin boob tops we appropriate office attire. They now go to meetings in business suits & everyone knows what is expected of them. So if the establishments allow dress down clients they will continue to get just that. If someone is embarassed by not being permitted entry they might rethink what "appropriate attire" means. What ever happened to ettiquite classes in schools? just my thoughts. please don't string me up!

[tracsimon]

[quote=Sue Foster;222551]I can see no one in this group lives in or near Miami, down here the attitude is less is best, scantily clad women of ALL sizes & shapes in barely there clothing & see through clothing is the acceptible trend, personally I think it looks aweful.



Oh I know I used to have a run to Miami I can say it hard to find a swim suit that cover your body there lol. I live in El Paso TX you think bad there seeing woman of all ages here with a big i mean really big muffin top that hugs over the top of there pants it is sad and we wont touch the dresses. I know i am not a size 10 any more and i do not dare try to squeeze into a 14 ether any i can't stand it any more. The only thing that really gets me going is seeing a baby out fit that trying too like a adult out fit. what every happen to cute little baby out fit?

tracy

[watermelon]

I can see no one in this group lives in or near Miami, down here the attitude is less is best, scantily clad women of ALL sizes & shapes in barely there clothing & see through clothing is the acceptible trend, personally I think it looks aweful. My DH had to set up a dress code for his employees who thought mini skirts, skin tight jeans & muffin boob tops we appropriate office attire. They now go to meetings in business suits & everyone knows what is expected of them. So if the establishments allow dress down clients they will continue to get just that. If someone is embarassed by not being permitted entry they might rethink what "appropriate attire" means. What ever happened to ettiquite classes in schools? just my thoughts. please don't string me up!

I've lived in Florida 20 years and traveled up and down the coast, across the state and like I said earlier, I've come to the conclusion that anything goes and people dress any ole way. Even with dress codes in place, people still 'hang out' all over the place in professional businesses. Just take a visit to our court house and county offices. I see it every day....sigh. I sometimes wonder if I'm the one 'out of place'. tee hee

[boltonia51]

Over the years formal dress seems to have lost its place. I miss the special dress events that my parents drug me to.I miss always having a special outfit for the up coming program. But you are right today it is almost anything goes.And sometimes anything is almost Nothing to look at.

[tndenim]

I try to dress appropriately for the events I go to. I don't go many places where "fancy dress" is required. I am not going to go buy a formal or cocktail dress that I will wear once or twice.
But I can wear a nice dress to something like the opera or the symphony and feel I am dressing appropriately. I don't agree that a t-s hirt or cut- offs are appropriate - but then again - if they felt comfortable in them and at the place - who am I to judge. You go to listen to some wonderful music and super voices singing - not to pay attention to what everyone else is wearing - at least I don't.

[pbrey8]

This all seems to be part of an overall problem. Little girls dress like adults, adults try to look like kids. Wannabes dress like punk rockers, teenages wear their underwear so it shows. Everyone says they are expressing theirselves, but really they are following the crowd. Most of my life is spent in jeans (no holes) and a polo shirt. But I do dress up in nice pants, shirt, and jacket when the need arises. I do not keep up with the Joneses, and I do not copy what others are wearing. I dress for my own comfort and self-esteem.

[dorie]

I think a lot of it is a lack of respect. Sometimes we are in church and people come in short shorts ok now I am not talking about children I am talking about adults. It is almost like oh it is hot out while I am jogging by and they pop in with short shorts and tshirt and hair not combed. That is my biggest pet peeve, you don't have to have money to have clean clothes on when you go somewhere especially church. and the flip flops does no one wear shoes anymore. Ok I will give someone else a turn to step up on the soap box.

[jstitch]

My parents always told me you act how you dress. I've tried to remember that. Even in high school, when I wanted to do well on a test, I dressed up. It made a difference in how I felt about myself, and in turn I did do a better job. So, I guess I'd have to agree that it does go back to respect. If you respect the performers, if you respect Diety when at church, if you respect instructors, whatever the case may be, your dress reflects that level of respect.