I am sooo mad!

[tndenim]

I would be very angry and would be very upset. And I would definitely be speaking with the lady.

[Dreama]

Windstar, I am totally blown away by this teacher's action. I was a co-sponsor of the Science and Ecology club and we Never left a child alone, nor did we let them ride with anyone other than the parent unless previous arrangements had been made. I can't beleive that the principal is leaving this person as a sponsor!!! Unbelieveable. Dreama

[dorie]

i am so glad that your daughter is ok first of all. But when my children were in band we never left a student in the school parking lot when we returned from a game until their parent got there or we drove them home. Can't believe how this person could do such a thing especially now days it is unthinkable.

[Slashie]

Personally, I don't think an apology is enough. That sponsor should be relieved of her sponsorship duties for the rest of the school year. I believe that the following year she could begin as an assistant sponsor under the watchful eye of the vice-principal until she proved herself. I realize it sounds harsh but I am appalled that the sponsor was immature enough to abandon all thoughts regarding the safety of each team member. An apology is a paltry punishment for such an irresponsible act.

good posting.


Windy glad your girl is safe, and that the school backed you.

however,the fact that the sponsor found this behaviour acceptable is a bit scary,so ayup,i agree with debbs

[SusieQ]

Wow. I am so glad your daughter is safe but what a scary thought to think what could have happened. I am glad the school was a bit supportive but I agree that person should not be trusted with such a responsibility. How could they have thought such a thing was alright? I can't help wondering where the bus money went?

[Boodoggie11]

If this was school sponsered I'd head to the school board. And if the bus went back to the school, then that counts! And there was a case like this here years ago. The parent sued and WON. Didn't take the money, just wanted to win and didn't want it to happen to another child.

[pbrey8]

Windstar, I am so glad your daughter is safe. I don't have much to add to the comments others have made. They said it all for me.

This just reinforces, however, how good these forums are for each of us. We can vent, whine (Angi), howl at the moon, whatever. We know we have friends here who will listen and support us! HooRay!

[clkeck]

I am so glad you got satisfaction from the school. You never want to get ugly with people, but sometimes you must complain. They put your daughter in an unsafe situation and that is never acceptable.
Connie

[p_lanter]

I just read this. I was upset to hear this happen. The fact that her excuse was she wanted to save money by not getting the bus speaks for itself. All she was interested was in having more money in her pocket. No regards for the safety of others. She left your daughter alone before you arrived. That is inexcusable. The fact remains that things could have turned out quite different. I feel the school should have done more than just voice their disappointment in her. Also, I feel that the should have not left it to you to decide the drivers fate. Does it always have to be a tragedy before action is taken. Sorry that you and your daughter had to go through this.
Hugs, Patty

[chris13212]

As a Mom of 2 daughters, I find this totally unaceptable. I am so glad your daughter is safe, but even an apology from the sponsor wouldnt be enough to justify this action. Did your daughter have a cell phone?? When my daughters were taking evening classes at the local community college, I had them make a habit of calling me and talking to me as they left the building, and walked to the parking lot, and didnt hang up with them until they were safely seatbelted and door locked into their car. My youngest daughter (27) still keeps this habit --when she walking from someplace , ie mall, to her car, in the evening. Of course, most evenings she is with her boy friend, so Mom doesnt get those calls now.
Again, I am so happy that your daughter was ok.
Chris

My daughter had a game last night. The sponsor did not order a bus to take everyone to the game altho we paid for buses as part of the $1,000 we paid out to be on the squad. When the game was done whoever was riding with her she loaded them up and in the meantime my daughter had called for me to pick her up and I immediately left...I am about 10 - 12 min if that far from the city stadium cause it's a straight shot down the freeway. Well when I got there the sponsor and everyone was gone and my 17 yo daughter was left alone with about 4 or 5 guys and a lady and she didn't know any of them. The sponsor wanted to get back to the school before the band buses so she wouldn't have to wait to get off the campus. I am so mad she thought so little of the safety of my child and it was 10 at night.

[windstar]

Yes she did have her cell phone and called to tell me the game was ending and I would know to head out to be there when she came out. That is how I know the sponsor left as soon as she walked thru the gate and entered the parking lot to her car. My daughter called me a second time when I had gotten off the interstate and was getting ready to turn onto the fairgrounds, that's how fast I was rolling down the interstate, because I had a feeling of needing to be there. I just didn't know how much of a need to be there.

[watermelon]

Yes she did have her cell phone and called to tell me the game was ending and I would know to head out to be there when she came out. That is how I know the sponsor left as soon as she walked thru the gate and entered the parking lot to her car. My daughter called me a second time when I had gotten off the interstate and was getting ready to turn onto the fairgrounds, that's how fast I was rolling down the interstate, because I had a feeling of needing to be there. I just didn't know how much of a need to be there.

Molly as long as you are comfortable with the results of the action the school took, I guess I should be, too. But this incident still scares me to death every time I think about it.
Just seems like more should have been done to the sponsor than was. Just still so thankful this turned out as good as it did.

[windstar]

It's not so much as being comfortable as trying to help keep their squad in tact and put her on notice. I don't want my daughter to be singled out by the other girls but I want every parent to know what happened and All eyes be on the sponsor and be alerted to the fact that we have paid for there to be buses to and from the games and as parents we have to now step up and insist things be done and done right. It also puts the school on notice that this happened and there no room for another error. She gets a separate compensation for being the sponsor and there will be someone with her.

[watermelon]

It's not so much as being comfortable as trying to help keep their squad in tact and put her on notice. I don't want my daughter to be singled out by the other girls but I want every parent to know what happened and All eyes be on the sponsor and be alerted to the fact that we have paid for there to be buses to and from the games and as parents we have to now step up and insist things be done and done right. It also puts the school on notice that this happened and there no room for another error. She gets a separate compensation for being the sponsor and there will be someone with her.

I hope a lot of pressure is on this lady and she is just a bit nervous about keeping the position and compensation. Schools have been known to fire without notice, so I'm sure they and you parents will stay on top of this.
Hugs to you for being the mom that cares about your children and others.

[motoandnutty]

I think you have handled it well windstar - everybody concerned is now alert to ensure that it is not repeated, and hopefully the sponsor will now lay on proper transport in the future.
Her having to apologies to you will have marked it in her brain, and she should now be a more considerate individual as a result, and not so quick to escape her responsibilities.

[jstitch]

The school needs to take this seriously, and if they don't, they are being negligent. Most school administrators know that they are legally responsible for the students while on campus and also while they are participating officially in school-sponsored activities. For example, if a football player is injured, the school bears some of the responsibility to cover the costs unless they have stipulated this in writing with parents. If a cheerleader is left alone to wait for a ride and there happen to be five boys from another school and something terrible happens, I sure wouldn't want to be in the shoes of the administrators in the legal porceedings that would follow.

[teddy_rn]

Molly my DH and I are so "overprotectve" that we have cell phones for our 12 & 14 year old girls, will not let them leave the yard with out knowing who/what/where! I would have had a total come apart if this were my child!! You certainily seem to have handled this far better than I would have! Tonight is my 12 year's first away game and we can not be there but have things in place; if you hear screaming than you will know it fell through!

Praise God things worked out and your precious daughter is safe!